We all know what weddings look like, right? A woman in a white dress and a man in a black suit. On her side, her bridesmaids are there to support her. On his side, his groomsmen are there for him. It’s just what we’ve come to expect, but that’s not always the case.
The reason for bridesmaids and groomsmen is so they can have their closest friends standing next to them when they get married. But what happens if the bride’s best friend is a man, or if the groom’s best friend is a woman?
Some couples are switching things up a little bit. Instead of having all of the women stand on the bride’s side and the men on the groom’s side, some couples are just having their friends stand with them.
Ben Ballard is a 30-year-old man. He has been in four different weddings. He was a best man once and a groomsman twice. His latest role, though, is a little different than what people are used to. He was a “bridesman.”
Ben had been best friends with the bride, Alyssa, since fourth grade. They had always joked about him being in her wedding, but when the time came for her to get married, she decided to follow through with that.
He still wore a suit, like most of the groomsmen, but his role was a little different. Instead of wearing classy, black shoes like the other men, he wore gold sequin Converses like the other bridesmaids. When he walked down the aisle at the wedding, he went to stand just behind Alyssa’s maid-of-honor.
To Ben, this was an honor. He shared, “It meant a lot to me that when the rubber met the road she still said, ‘I want you to be in my wedding.’ Her confidence in it made it feel totally normal. She just wanted her best friends around her at her wedding.”
And it’s not just on the bride’s side. Alex Yergin asked his best friend Ellen to be his groom’s gal at his wedding in September. He shared, “There might be some historical purpose from a long time ago that I’m unaware of, but nowadays the point of a wedding party is to have the people closest to you to be there supporting you. Anybody who knows me knows that is Ellen.”
This tradition isn’t necessarily something you see every day. However, it’s great that these couples were able to have their best friends next to them for their wedding days.
In other news, this woman’s wedding dress stunned her grandmother on her wedding day. Check out the story here.